Falling in love and finding a soulmate is different in real life compared to watching it in movies. For some people, the concept of "the right one" doesn't make sense. But some people want to make sure that they are with the right person before making a commitment. Women, in particular, want to be with the right person but that doesn't always happen. So, how to know if he is the one? You just have to wait and see if both of you have a strong relationship that can withstand hardships. Just be patient and look for certain indicators that will give you an idea if he is the right one for you.
A Little Checklist to Help You
In relationships, don't think too hard and go with the flow. There is no magical formula that will tell you precisely that he is the right person for you. Individual experiences impact our thoughts and we develop our own perspective towards life and relationships. But if you want to have some sort of guideline to know whether you are with the right person, below is a little checklist to help you figure out that if he is the one.
1. He makes you a better person
If you feel lucky when around this amazing person, you are with the right man. If he is caring, loving and helps people, then he is a positive influence in your life. When you see such positivity in a person you are with, you yourself want to be a better person. As Susan Winter, a relationship expert and author says: "This means that their lifestyle and attitude is conducive to your growth, stability and happiness."
2. He values you for who you are
Susan Winter also says: "You know you've made a good choice of partner when you can fully be yourself in their company." This answers your question of how to know if he's the one to a great extent. But if you are simply caught up in keeping up with what he wants, then you have to pause and think: "does he value me and my opinions?" Be honest with yourself and you'll have your answer.
3. He wants you to be happy
Whenever someone loves you, your happiness matters the most to them. George Sand, a French novelist, says: "There is only happiness in life, to love and to be loved." So, your man will try to make you laugh and cheer you up if you are sad. This shows he cares about you and often can show that he is the one.
4. He supports your dreams and goals
He not only strives towards his own goals but also supports you in achieving yours. This is one of the main signs that can tell you if he is the one. The reason is simple: if you have to compromise or entirely give up on your dreams and passions, this relationship might not work out very well. But if he supports you in every way he can in achieving what you want, then you have your answer.
5. You can communicate openly with each other
Open and honest communication is key to having a good relationship. If you can be honest with each other and pour your heart out without any fear, then you have a solid relationship. You can trust each other and solve conflicts very well. As John Powell says, "Honest, open communication is the only street that leads us into the real world. We begin to grow as never before. And once we are on this road, happiness cannot be far away." So, he is really "the one" if you have this level of understanding and communication.
6. He never lets you down
Is he the one who lives up to your expectations and never lets you down? If he loves, respects and supports your ideas in every possible way, then you should cherish him. He is there for you whenever you need help and takes care of matters when you can't handle them.
7. He regards you as his priority
If he introduces you to his family, he is pretty serious about the relationship. It means that he regards you as his priority. Sometimes he puts off other things just to be with you. Even helping you with simple things like buying groceries or making dinner for you shows that he values you. He plans things with you like traveling or taking you to his family gatherings. Don't doubt his sincerity and love if he does so much for you.
8. You love each other even when things are not good
This is one of the most important indicators of true love. It develops over time and it is much deeper than bragging about your best dates. If both of you love each other no matter how hard things get, stick with each other and cherish this love.
9. He respects your family
Talk about being a family favorite. If he respects your family and they can trust him, then you might have found the right guy. But you need to pay attention if this is totally the opposite. It might be difficult to spot the red flags at the beginning of a relationship but your family can sense if something's not right. So, listen to them if they are telling you that he is not right for you.
10. You can fully trust him
Trust is the main ingredient in healthy relationships. You can't be happy with someone if you are constantly thinking that your partner is with someone else. If he is late for any reason, the first thing that comes to your mind should be his safety. But if you have doubts that he is not sincere with you, this relationship might not work. If you can trust each other, without any doubts, he is definitely the right person for you.
Be Realistic in Your Expectations
Give space and time to yourself and your partner before deciding on the nature of your relationship. The list given above is not about finding "the one" on the basis of all these qualities. Both of you are human beings and being realistic in your expectations will certainly help you two develop a strong bond. After all, as Angelita Lim says: "I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more." So, if your partner has some of these qualities described in the text and you are sincere with him, then he might be "the one" for you. If not, you can certainly find and deserve someone better, someone that will truly love you.